Gift Ideas to Avoid for People Living with Dementia
When selecting a gift for someone with dementia, it's essential to keep their condition and needs in mind. The goal is to choose thoughtful, meaningful gifts that bring comfort and joy, without causing confusion or frustration. Here are some gifts to avoid:
Complicated Technology - High-tech gadgets like smartphones, smartwatches, VR sets, etc., may overwhelm someone with dementia. These gifts often require learning how to operate, which can be frustrating. Instead, opt for simpler items like a large-button phone, a digital clock with large print, a digital photo frame with preloaded pictures, or a simple music player with their favorite songs.
Anything that resembles food - People with dementia often experience memory loss and confusion. Receiving items that look like food—such as food-shaped candles, toys, or decorative objects—may lead to misunderstandings and can negatively affect their emotional well-being. There’s also the potential risk of attempting to eat these non-food items, which could be unsafe and potentially harmful.
Games that are too complex - While puzzles and games can be fun and engaging, choosing ones that are too difficult can lead to frustration or confusion. Avoid puzzles with too many pieces or games that require memory recall or concentration. Choose puzzles with large pieces, familiar images, or games designed specifically for cognitive impairment, which are easier to enjoy without stress.
You might be wondering, "What qualifies as too complicated?" It's essential to consult with the caregiver(s) involved in your loved one’s care—this includes doctors, nurses, home health aides, social workers, and others. However, as a general rule, if something feels too complicated, it likely is.
Items that are too small - Avoid gifting small, easy-to-misplace items like trinkets, wallets, or loose jewelry. These are potential choking hazards. Instead, consider items with larger, more noticeable features, like a cozy sweater, a warm blanket, or a comfortable pair of slippers that are easy to spot.
Plants - Someone with dementia may struggle with remembering to care for them. Some plants can be toxic if ingested, posing safety risks, and others might overwhelm their senses with strong smells or textures. Additionally, in assisted living or memory care facilities, space is often limited, making plants an impractical choice. Instead, opt for gifts that are easier to manage and provide comfort without the added responsibility.
Clothing that’s difficult to put on or take off - Clothing that requires complicated fastenings or is difficult to put on can cause frustration for someone with dementia. Do not purchase items like shirts with buttons or shoes with complicated laces. Easy-to-wear clothing, such as elastic waistband pants, slip-on shoes, or robes with velcro closures, will make dressing easier.
Overstimulating Gifts - Gifts that are overly bright, loud, or busy can overstimulate someone with dementia, causing anxiety or agitation. Avoid gifts like loud music players, flashy décor, or overly colorful items, even clothes. Instead, focus on soothing, calming gifts like soft textures, or simple, neutral colors that are easy on the senses.
Anything Sharp - Giving items with sharp edges to individuals with dementia can pose serious safety risks. As individuals progress through different stages of dementia, their ability to recognize dangers and handle objects safely may diminish. Sharp objects can lead to accidental injuries, which may be more difficult for them to understand or react to appropriately.